The Road to Divorce
Written by: Emina Kadić, Systemic Family Psychotherapist How can you recognize the steps that show you are on the path toward divorce? 1. Illusions about the partner end – attraction decreases and…
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Text written by: Emina Kadić, Systemic Family Psychotherapist
How do you recognize the steps that indicate you are on the path toward divorce?
1. The illusions about your partner fade – the partner's attractiveness and appeal decline, while your focus shifts to differences and negatives.
2. Emotional divorce – interest keeps diminishing; emotional withdrawal; depression and psychosomatic symptoms; emphasis on the negative sides of the relationship; the real state of the relationship is concealed from others; divorce is not yet being considered.
3. Emotional separation – emotional coldness and indifference prevail; withdrawal into oneself and avoidance of touch; daydreaming about an independent life; occasional impulses to return to togetherness – if there is no response, a quick withdrawal follows.
4. Physical separation – leaving the partner and home; a phase of intense emotions; fear, uncertainty about the future, a sense of betrayal, rejection, guilt, loneliness, and, for some, a sense of relief.
Signs in any phase are information that, if you wish, you can ask a psychotherapist for help, or you can let the process culminate in divorce.